Bum fun, biting the pillow, punching the starfish, whatever you choose to call it, anal sex is no longer the taboo subject it once was and lots of people engage in this extracurricular bedroom activity - and enjoy it! But if you're new to backdoor fun and don't know where to start it can be a little daunting. Is it safe, what are the risk factors and how do you do it without getting hurt? GP Dr Roger Henderson looks at the potential risks and explains how to enjoy safe anal sex:.
I heard as a teenage student, from friends who had tried at the request of their boyfriends, that anal sex really hurt. On the back of that advice, it had never taken my fancy. Still, the first time took me by surprise. We were in the doggy position and he accidentally hit the wrong hole. I yelped it hurt a lot. So, a few weeks later, my man and I discussed anal beforehand, and I came prepared having bought some lube in anticipation. The way around the pain was to take control of the movements myself in the doggy position, so I could decide on the depth and speed at which he entered me. I got a vibrating butt plug afterwards to get used to the sensation and enjoyed that with my partner later — the sensation of being full was a real turn-on.
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